Why Admitting Defeat Can Be Good For You

Published: November 1, 2011
By: Faye Hollands

We all have bad days from time to time when we get overwhelmed and feel increasingly more unmotivated as the day goes on.  Obviously, it’s important to be able to pick yourself up quickly whenever possible, but what can you do if defeat feels like the only option?

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One of the most important lessons I’ve learned recently is that taking your foot off the accelerator, and sometimes coming to a grinding halt, is actually OK.

Working from home with a crawling baby nipping at your toes makes for an interesting juggling act, and if you throw teething into the equation there’s almost a guaranteed headache on the way.  Two weeks ago, Nurofen wasn’t doing the trick, and I was at my wits end.

I’m very good at picking myself up and moving on during tough times, but on this particular occasion I couldn’t even conjure up an ounce of spare energy to think positively, let alone ‘do’ positive!

So what did I do? Well unusually for me, I admitted defeat.  I wrote the day off, had a little cry, ate a lot of biscuits and felt a bit sorry for myself.

What a sorry sight!  BUT, as tragic as it sounds, it was also great therapy.  Instead of giving myself a hard time (which I’m very good at), and making life even tougher than it already felt on that particular day, I just decided to go with the flow and have a ‘down day’.

Did it work?  Absolutely. By taking the pressure off and giving myself permission to stop and clear my head, I gave my mind a well-earned break.  And the result was that I had a new-found energy and fresh perspective the following day.

Importantly though, my defeat ended when I went to bed that night.  Anytime you decide to indulge in defeat, just make sure you have a plan to pick yourself up the following day.  Defeat definitely isn’t a long-term strategy, it’s simply a treat to relieve the pressure and find a new perspective.

So after you’ve slowed down and regrouped, and before you go to bed, write down 2 or 3 actions you’re going to take the next day to move forward.  Make them small and simple so that you start your day off well, and then crack on the following morning as if your day of defeat was a mere bump in an otherwise smooth and exciting road.

Have you ever had a down day and admitted defeat? Post a comment below and let me know what happened, and how you picked yourself up again…

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Written by Faye Hollands – Director at Outshine Consulting. Faye is an accomplished Career Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career and business they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success.

To receive your FREE MP3 download of Faye’s popular teleseminar ‘How To Create A Career You Love‘ and weekly articles to improve your career and time management skills click here.

Faye Hollands

About Faye Hollands

Faye is an accomplished Career Coach, Small Business Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success. To receive weekly articles to improve your career, business and time management skills click here or book your Free Focus Session here.

You can contact Faye on +61 2 8323 4335 or email fayehollands@outshineconsulting.com

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One Response to Why Admitting Defeat Can Be Good For You

  1. Oh and soon she will be walking, then running, then climbing up onto your desk saying ” my ‘puter”.

    I always love reading these stories of a fellow WFHM Faye they make me feel just a little bit normal whilst inspiring me at the same time…

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