Say Goodbye To Avoidance

Published: March 19, 2014
By: Faye Hollands

How many tasks have you avoided doing this week?  Dodging the things you don’t want to do can feel great at the time, but just like many bad habits, avoidance soon catches up with you and the results aren’t always pretty…

Ouch

Giving uncomfortable situations the flick, or steering clear of challenging tasks, can give an immediate feeling of relief but we all know that taking the easy road doesn’t always give the best results.

Avoidance can feel like your best friend at a time where you can’t face what you know you really need to do, but the harsh reality is that avoidance signifies an inability to cope on some level, which can be a pretty confronting thought for most.

So if you’re avoiding doing something, chances are you’re coping by simply avoiding coping (got it?).

By ignoring the issue, bypassing the problem or side-stepping the person you’re simply hoping that the challenge will go away.  But surprise,surprise, in most cases it won’t.

And the big problem with avoidance?  It teaches you that the only way to deal with a tough situation is to avoid it.  I’m sure we can all see a vicious circle forming …

So how can you put a stop to avoidance? Thankfully it’s simple (note: that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easy!).  All you need to do is take one tiny little step forward.  Even the teeniest of actions gives avoidance the big heave-ho.  I know this makes a complex situation sounds unrealistically easy, but just like standing on the spot and then leaning forward slightly, you can’t help but move if you just do something, anything that chips away at the bigger block.

So for example, if you’ve been itching to change career but the sheer enormity of the idea makes you feel stuck, spend some time googling career change (or better still, just check out my blog!).  Ease yourself into the topic, get a few ideas, have some fun with the concept and THEN get stuck into building a strategic plan.

Perhaps you want to grow your business but are awesome at avoiding sales and marketing activities?  Instead of being overwhelmed by a long list of business development to-do’s that you don’t feel comfortable with, just pick one that feels the most appealing and schedule in an hour to give it your best shot.  By getting the wheels in motion you’ll be moving in the right direction, and once you’ve built up just a little momentum avoidance will soon be left far behind.

Whatever the task, avoidance can be quashed by chipping away at the job or issue bit by bit, instead of waiting until you have the motivation or guts to launch yourself at it 100%…. which might never happen.  Give yourself a break and make whatever you’ve been putting off far easier by chunking the actions you need to take down into smaller pieces – you’ll be amazed at how you can pick up speed when that dreaded task all of a sudden seems so much more manageable!

Remember: Action is your friend, avoidance is the enemy!

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Written by Faye Hollands – Director at Outshine Consulting

Faye is an accomplished Career Coach, Small Business Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success.

To receive your FREE MP3 download of Faye’s popular teleseminar ‘How To Create A Career You Love‘ and weekly articles to improve your career, business and time management skills click here.

You can contact Faye on +61 2 8323 4335 or email fayehollands@outshineconsulting.com

Faye Hollands

About Faye Hollands

Faye is an accomplished Career Coach, Small Business Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success. To receive weekly articles to improve your career, business and time management skills click here or book your Free Focus Session here.

You can contact Faye on +61 2 8323 4335 or email fayehollands@outshineconsulting.com

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