How To Deal With Negative People

Published: July 23, 2012
By: Faye Hollands

Working with someone who’s negative more often than not can be tiring, demotivating and damn right annoying.  They can suck the life out of you and before you know it you’re drawn into their web of whinging!  So what can you do if you’re stuck working with someone who’s glass is always half empty?

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Here are 5 simple tips to help make a potentially tough situation much more bearable: –

1.  It’s Not Them, It’s You

Alright, lets get the tough stuff out the of the way first.  Before casting blame, and expecting Mr/Mrs Negative to change, take a moment to look at yourself.  Is there anything you can do differently when interacting with this person that would help to improve the situation?  Perhaps you’re always expecting the worst so that’s what you see, or maybe you’re abrupt or rude when talking to them because they get on your nerves?  Either way, you’re not helping the situation so first things first, be the best person you can be and shape up.  If there’s something, anything, YOU can do to make things better that’s your starting point.

2.  Detach Yourself

The worse thing you can do with a negative person is get involved in their whining, whinging conversation.  So smile, don’t say a word, and detach yourself from the situation.  Importantly, don’t let yourself get drawn into agreeing with their grievances, or giving them encouragement to continue being negative.  By reacting you are feeding the situation, and what you need to do is starve it!

3.  Encourage Positivity

Sometimes people can be oblivious to how negative they’re being, so to help them ‘snap out of it’ make sure you encourage positivity and ask if anything good has happened to move them away from focusing on the bad.

4.  Lend A Hand

Being negative can be a cry for help so show compassion and always ask if there’s anything you can do to assist – this simple question may be just what that person needs to shift their mindset and attitude.

5.  Choose Your Topics Wisely

Stick to light topics, and avoid the conversations that you know press negative buttons.  If your colleague or friend’s attitude is always negative when you talk about careers, or relationships for example, avoid that trigger like the plague.  If encouraging positivity in this area doesn’t work then your best tactic is to avoid it altogether and stick with topics that are fun and lighthearted.

What has worked for you when it comes to dealing with negative people? Post a comment below – I’d love to hear your tips and ideas!

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Written by Faye Hollands – Director at Outshine Consulting and Busy Working Mumma.

Faye is an accomplished Career Coach, Small Business Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success.

To receive your FREE MP3 download of Faye’s popular teleseminar ‘How To Create A Career You Love‘ and weekly articles to improve your career, business and time management skills click here.

You can contact Faye on +61 2 8323 4335 or email fayehollands@outshineconsulting.com

Faye Hollands

About Faye Hollands

Faye is an accomplished Career Coach, Small Business Coach and Productivity Specialist who has successfully coached countless clients on how to create a career they love, get more done in less time, and achieve personal and professional success. To receive weekly articles to improve your career, business and time management skills click here or book your Free Focus Session here.

You can contact Faye on +61 2 8323 4335 or email fayehollands@outshineconsulting.com

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2 Responses to How To Deal With Negative People

  1. Nada Sinclair

    Thanks Faye for this timely advice. I will try it out!

    Regards
    Nada

  2. I’m glad I came across your site; I found myself agreeing to everything you’ve said here. But I have a very unconventional approach in dealing with negative people: ignore them, or pretend to agree to all of their ideas.

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